I know I may not have it all together and I cam foresee that I might be missing a lot of pieces here and there about this resolution. But I shall make this as the stepping stone to develop the Better Me. Insha Allah.
1. I will try my very very best to smile at my kids when they throw tantrums (because one is currently at this stage and the other will be joining her sister pretty soon). I will try to hug them instead of scolding and listen to what they wish to say (read mumble).
2. I will allow myself to have charm even during my worst say when I just got the kids bathed or the washclothes folded.
3. I aim to be content with whatever is there around me and I know that there will be times when i only have a bowl of instant noodle for lunch because I should be spending more time on work and not cooking.
4. I want to be the Mom who doesn’t compare herself with others and make the best of everything she has instead.
5. I wish to be an inspiration and listener to more mothers, and let them know that they are not alone in this,
6. I want to be more vigilant with our financial status now that the kids are growing up and we are gonna need more money for current and future use.
7. I will try to embrace the fact that my kids have been missing me the whole day and coming home from daycare means cuddling and snuggling even if it takes away the remaining energy that is left in me.
8. I will continue to learn to accept that I am a mother and it is about constant giving
9. I will watch my steps because I should have known that they are copying every single thing I say and do, and that, it is scary to be observed and followed all the time.
10. And finally, I want to be the happy mom by simply enjoying what I love doing. Since I love writing so much, by all means have some room for myself and write!
It’s wise to not compare your kids’ hairstyle to that Akak’s daughter sitting at the next table at the foodcourt. Neither it is healthy to place any judgement on why that Akak behind you isn’t giving her baby breasftmilk. Or that mother who scold her son for spilling his drinks, or that mommy who is busy facebooking while the daddy feeds their kids.
Simply because everyone has their own story and struggle and it is just unfair to be making your own conclusion about how that mommy does her job and how that mother raises her kids,
When the reality is, we need more support from one another. We gotta be reminding each other that with hardship, there is ease. We have got to build a Motherhood United sort of community showing that we have each other’s back.